The title of my previous post Thirty days and counting… Autism: Day 4,711 was meant to be ironic. To me this was amusing in that it was poking fun at my own intent with this blog by pointing to that place between what is expected and what is the reality of the situation. That space between the two – between what I anticipate and what I actually get – that is the space where I notice humour often resides.
In April 2011 I set out to blog for 30 days: to do my little part to support Autism Awareness Month, to share my experiences with my son with autism/Autistic son, and my perspectives as a special education teacher, in a way that might make a difference for others. Thirty posts in 30 days – that was my objective and then this thing… this mission… my contribution to increasing awareness… would in essence be complete.
What I realized, and am realizing still, is that this is not about awareness. My child and others like him, who experience and process and respond to the world differently, need our support and acceptance and understanding, and this needs to extend well beyond a particular day or month.
Autism is a difference in my child – he is not typical – and I must admit that I wouldn’t change this if I could. However, if I could change the way the world responded to a child like mine – that I would do in a heartbeat.
My child was Autistic when he was 2. He was Autistic when he entered kindergarten at his neighbourhood school, and almost two years ago when we made the decision to enroll him in a distance education school. He is Autistic today when he is almost 13 and will still be autistic when he is 20, or 40, and even still at 80 years old. Autism is for life!
So… and please bear with me as I come full circle here, I received an interesting comment on the title of my post from another autism parent recently: “I didn’t realize that you counted the number of days you have lived with autism in your life. I am awed by it…” Oooops, I feel I must clarify here… Don’t be awed – I don’t count the days ( I simply did the math for that particular day) I wanted to make the point: Wow! At the end of 30 days – and all my dedication – strangely enough – I was still just a mom struggling to get my kid to go to bed and there was still need for understanding and advocacy and acceptance. Autism: day 4,711.
We are making our way as we go. As H grows and develops he gains skills and understanding – and then new challenges emerge and make themselves known to us. We are kept on our toes…. nimbly trying to stay a step ahead. Sometimes we make it, sometimes – well – we get a chance to try another way. Sometimes H is now the one leading us – and rightly so. We are on this path together. This is not a sprint – it is a long, long journey. This is not a month – these are our lives…
So why, you wonder, do I find this amusing?
Perhaps it is not! However I see a certain ironic humour in the title of this blog that I must admit I find more than a trifle endearing. “Thirty Days of Autism…” It makes me smirk. It lightens my heart, and my step. It keeps me going…
30 Days of Autism is a project designed to fight stigma, promote civil rights, and increase understanding and acceptance for those who process and experience the world differently.
©Leah Kelley, Thirty Days of Autism (2011)