Category Archives: limits

Meltdowns and the Lens of Ableism

Meltdowns – from the other side… Many, many months back Colin Bowman and I began a conversation in the comments section of one of my posts (Yours, Mine and Ours: Autism, Self-Advocacy and Setting Limits). This interaction has been resonating … Continue reading

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H on Acceptance, Love and Self-Care: #AutismPositivity2015

Acceptance is knowing people have your back. Acceptance feels like it is safe to be yourself. Self-care is fidgets in my pocket, stimming, long baths before bed, knowing when I need time alone, knowing my limits, welcoming my intense feelings, … Continue reading

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Holding Space as Acceptance, Love, and Self-care: #AutismPositivity2015

I think about self-care rather often it seems… though I’ll admit that if I were to define self-care as I thing I do, I don’t actually engage in it quite as regularly as I contemplate it… I think though, in … Continue reading

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Birds singing at night…

I love this time of year when the days are getting longer and I awaken to birdsong in the early morning… It feels so renewing and full of hope to know that spring has kept its perennial promise and has … Continue reading

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Random thoughts, changing colours, and the TARDIS

I have been thinking so much… and at the same time… writing far less than is the norm for me. I have too many partially completed projects that are pulling me in different directions.  There is just so much rattling … Continue reading

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Managing Overwhelm… The Beauty and Utility of Lists

I am gathering resources to make it through the final week of school. Not actual learning resources, but personal resources, energy, stamina, resiliency… remembering to breathe… I didn’t do much this weekend… I am keeping some parts of myself, my … Continue reading

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The kid who knows who Stanley Kubrick is: Dreaming Big

I hope it is a good movie. It is going to be a bit corny – but it should be good. Mom will you help me?? Yes, you get things going and set up and then let me know what … Continue reading

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Welcoming Dissent… Self-advocacy, the communication hierarchy, and rethinking tone

My thinking and learning around the ideas and concepts of self-advocacy is being nudged by the work I am doing supporting educators in their inquiry projects in a Graduate Program entitled, Supporting Diverse Learners. I have been explaining the importance … Continue reading

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Strengths, Stretches, and Autism: More Lessons from the Thrift-Shop

H and I are the same in many ways: we don’t really like shopping or malls but we love the thrift shop with its lure of the find and the potential of treasure. Buying H’s clothes there means they are … Continue reading

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Social Hangover…

Anyone else have a social hangover? Fortunately, Craig and I are on the same page. He says we should just hole up in our burrow and embrace the priorities of Hobbits… (Well, maybe really geeky Hobbits…) Second breakfasts… Tweensies… Afternoon … Continue reading

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