Category Archives: Communicate

Meltdowns and the Lens of Ableism

Meltdowns – from the other side… Many, many months back Colin Bowman and I began a conversation in the comments section of one of my posts (Yours, Mine and Ours: Autism, Self-Advocacy and Setting Limits). This interaction has been resonating … Continue reading

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“Code” a Poem for H by N.I. Nicholson

A few seasons later… and I am still left breathless by the beauty of these words and images. Code By N.I. Nicholson Dear H: for those of us to whom words sometimes do not easily run, saunter, or even amble: … Continue reading

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Pathologizing Kitty…

I’ve been considering that we don’t impose the dog paradigm of communication, where tail wagging means ‘I am happy or excited’ and ‘please give me more…’ on the cats we know and love… It is interesting that we realize the … Continue reading

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Talking with crows: A Sensory Break

Since H was very young I have made a bit of a habit of handing him my camera on long drives, or when he needs a break or is feeling overwhelmed… or when he points out something of interest. This … Continue reading

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Profoundly Logical: I didn’t hear you

In exasperation: “Hey H, I already asked you to do this!” “I didn’t hear you…” “I know… that is why I am mad!” “I can’t hear you because I am not hearing you.” (pause) “I didn’t hear you because I … Continue reading

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Please… Don’t pet the bumblebees

I love conversations that begin with… “Mom, here’s an interesting fact…” I can’t help but smile with anticipation and the realization that I am about to be schooled… I don’t think I was as drawn to facts when I was … Continue reading

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Welcoming Dissent… Self-advocacy, the communication hierarchy, and rethinking tone

My thinking and learning around the ideas and concepts of self-advocacy is being nudged by the work I am doing supporting educators in their inquiry projects in a Graduate Program entitled, Supporting Diverse Learners. I have been explaining the importance … Continue reading

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TASH Conference Keynote and a fortress of chips: H Rocks his Advocacy

In front of the entire conference stood a 14-year-old boy. He’d eaten little during lunch – perhaps it was nerves – but more likely it was the lack of anything the least bit palatable or familiar to his tastes. However, … Continue reading

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“Whisper me, Mom”: Autism and Supporting Development

When H was tiny I used to whisper words to him when we were out, because he lacked words of his own in an unfamiliar environment, or with unfamiliar people. I would lean in seamlessly – almost invisibly – so … Continue reading

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‘Dear Teacher: A letter from H’ …Listening to Autism 13-year-old Style

Earlier this fall my 13-year-old son gave a presentation to my school staff (also his school) about autism, entitled “Dear Teacher: A Letter From H” and thus had the opportunity to teach teachers at his school about the way he … Continue reading

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