Today H and I were heading into the big city. It was close to a two hour trip and we agreed to have a no technology drive. That meant no iPad, iPod or laptop in the car for H… and apparently no CBC radio for me. Instead – we talked. We talked of many wonderful things today and I won’t recount it all – but I must share this one small conversation:
“Mom… I love you”
“Aw… H are you telling me this to make me feel good?”
“Yes… and because it’s true. But Mom…”
“Mmmmhmmm??”
“Sometimes I say it because I don’t know what else to say.”
“Well, it’s a nice thing to say!”
“Ya, sometimes I start to say something and I say ‘mom’ and then I forget what I was going to say.”
“Oh – so it’s a kind of fail-safe…”
“Ya. Now you know my secret!”
“H??”
“Ya?”
“I love you!!!”
I have observed before that sometimes the pace chooses me. However, I can’t help but notice – that we often have some say in the pace of things. When we slow the pace – and take the time to connect… there is always ALWAYS a treasured moment to be found.
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30 Days of Autism is a project designed to fight stigma, promote civil rights, and increase understanding and acceptance for those who process and experience the world differently.
© Leah Kelley, Thirty Days of Autism, (2012)
No CBC? I feel your pain.
What a lovely secret H had.
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Thank you! He is charming. honest, and quite frankly… hilarious!
Later in the day he told me Zena Warrior Princess was beautiful – but then quickly added that she was not as beautiful as me. When I questioned this as possibly not the case – he told me it was a part of the son’s code to say these things to moms – and that there was an “organization”. Then, with perfect comedic timing he said – “OH crap – that is a secret – now they’ll probably kick me out!”
Can you say spit-take?? I almost sprayed my Starbucks on the windshield!
And too…on a slightly different topic – somehow I figured you to be a fellow CBC fan!! Yay!
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I understand the code perfectly. When he gets older he has to be careful that he doesn’t do anything to upset the Committee because they might take away his membership card. Crap! Now I’ve done it.
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Oh dear! Darn those self-regulation issues!!
… but… I must admit I can relate… LOL
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