Category Archives: Goals

Considering 50: Trajectory of Development, Independence, and Accidental Unfoldings

Often birthdays are a quiet affair at our house, which is just fine with me, but this October marked my 50th and we ushered it in with a wildly fun Elton John themed party. Seriously, for people who are pretty … Continue reading

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Strengths, Stretches, and Autism: More Lessons from the Thrift-Shop

H and I are the same in many ways: we don’t really like shopping or malls but we love the thrift shop with its lure of the find and the potential of treasure. Buying H’s clothes there means they are … Continue reading

Posted in aproximating typical, Autism, Autistic Shadow Traits, Goals, limits, Neurotypical, Parent, Resiliency, self-advocacy, SPD | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , | 26 Comments

Adding the I to IEP: H is at the table

There was another first for our 13-year-old this week. We worked with the wonderful team at H’s Distributed Learning School to update his Individual Education Plan (IEP) and for the first time ever H was there to take part. He … Continue reading

Posted in Anxiety, Autism, Distance Education, Distributed Learning, Goals, HFASD, IEP, inclusion, scaffolding, self-advocacy, Shame, Special Education | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , | 15 Comments

Mom… tell me what I did wrong: Autism and Social Development

In my role as an educator I often remind others (myself included) to consider that H and others like him who are Autistic are working doubly hard to make their way in the world. The effort my child makes to … Continue reading

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Resiliency and The Big Apple

This boy of mine has big plans: he is saving to go to New York City. I am not certain why he is so driven to get there, but I suspect it is a combination of wanting to relive Home … Continue reading

Posted in Autism, discomfort avoidance, Goals, handling discomfort, New York, Parent, Resiliency, sticky | Tagged , , , , , , , , , , , , , , | 3 Comments